What do you say after "Hi" when chatting?

erm ask how are you ? make sure if youve met them online and they have a bio that let say says small business owner - ask about their business , show interest in them but only if its genuine - and you REALLY are interested , for me i prefer talking to other writers online they are much better with the written word than many and are more interesting in how they talk about you and themselves - i really hate as a woman but thats just me i had so many men who can see my bio says im a writer etc or ex model etc etc alot of info about me and they ask what do you do ?? im like whaaaaat - if youre too lazy to read my bio then youre a bit of a no brainer - i also had fb pages and when i would accept a guy on fb they would instantly go like my photos , go like my pages and they said oooh i see youre a writer what do you write about - thats way better for me than guys who see all your info yet ask stupid questions coz they didnt really check out your info on your profile - stuff like that i guess but if person lets say on insta ( and i see many girls like this now ) they are protected accounts so you cant see posts anyway so im not sure why ppl would follow them if they havent seen their content in the first place but anyway many are protected and when they do add you theres no photos and insta is basically a photo album - but if theres no photos no bio then of course you gotta ask them what they do coz they havent got a bio but i personally think ppl who follow girls who are protected are just trying for sex coz if i was a guy even if just after sex i would still wanna see photos before i follow them etc see their bio etc - i mean you could be requesting these weird private accounts prob thinking as a man that theyre only protected coz they posting some kind of dirty photos but then you see all they post in quotes or something - now that could be fine for men genuinly wanting more of an intelligent connection and not looking mostly for hot girls etc with sexy content but if youre following a girl who has photos etc and they look nice etc but you still want a mind connection then ok but if youre only following to either just get sex or perv or masturbate over them then you shouldnt really try talking coz despite girls looking like theyre up for it online based on sexy photos iit dont mean they up for it they are actually human beings who take loads of photos of themselves and pick the best ones to post to insta and yes they may look fit or hot or sexy to you and they may be flirty with you etc but it still dont mean they a slut and will give in to you sexually so easy - not saying that the person who asked this is like that but i do see many hot girls (who are not in sex industry) who post great photos etc and even girls who arent that hot but they still looking good and got good energy etc but i think many guys mistake us for women who will give into their oh youre different from other girls oooh theres something about you —-omg i really like you etc and if were online and got many followers we are experiencing men always sliding into our dms and its very very difficult to navigate whos just after sex and who isnt coz you guys all seem soooo invested in us at first . so always best to try and stand out from others - show a genuine interest in them - but as i said only if youre genuinly interested in actual connection but ok say how great she looks but dont keep saying it and dont keep asking for more photos - im not talking about nudes im talking about - oh send me a photo of you now - i mean ok maybe for many its new ot them but ive been online for years now - initially the whole dopamine rush of guys saying how greast you look how amazinf you are was very inticing but after so many coming at youo saying same thing as a woman you do get desensitized by it and start to think everyones just after sex but telling you what you need to hear etc but you gotta realise if women like myself have many followers or photos of them they do like attention and get alot so we are basically looking for someone who is interesting and articulated with the written word - i mean youre online right ?? we dont like abbreviations like yh or wyd unless were 13 lol we dont like when we ask youo what you been doing you saying stuff like not much really i mean come on ! so defo dont do all that . sorry to go on but ive been online too long - and met so many no brainers any when you ask what you doig they reckon they lying in bed etc etc but hey thats just my experiences but i myself used to speak to my own daughters friends via snap etc and at the time these girls were 16 or 17 and they can have a decent convo they dont reply with yh or wyd so dont treat girls no matter what age like we be ok with - oh im lying in bed right now or have you got any more sexy photos than this coz ok some will be ok but most think youre a Dick if you do that - yes thers alot now looking sexy and they look sexual too but if u met them in real life they probs not like that at all - so its very interesting to stimulate a girls mind and thats with any age girl you talking to - she wants someone to listen to her if shes got a problem etc etc and if she got no photos at all then ok its ok to ask for a normal photo if you wanna see if you got an attraction etc . but one word answers to her questions is a bit of a red flag - for me it is anyway but maybe some girls are different . but as i said i been online for long time now . i basically had enough and really dont know whos who anymore . and if youre seriously just looking for hook up etc you gotta be clear from the start . yes it scares some away but ok its better than what many are doing now with all the fake chivalry and i wouldnt mind a relationship in time nonsense just to get what you want - ive been through it all and its not what women want at all . but yes there are girls who are ok with hook ups so if thats what u want say it too . but im seeing from some posts here that some men are going as far as actually dating a girl for like a few weeks or months purely just to get sex …… that will emotionally upset a girl or woman . if u not getting success with trying to get hook up there are certain services for that where you have to pay and thats why those services exist . and are getting more popular now . but be clear about what you want and if you genuinly looking to be a friend with a girl then good for you but actually be her friend . i been looking for a real genuine friend for so long now but guys always going on about how i look etc which is nice dont get me wrong but its so hard as a pretty girl to know if youre really into us as a person or just our looks . met so many who wanted friends with benefits but when it came to them actually being there for me when i needed them they were gone . it effects our emotional health badly - some more than others . but genuinly care about her d actually be her friend and find common interests .sorry to go on but the internet and this whole loneliness epidemic seems to have just manifested as men being way too sexual when they should be looking for genuine cnnections . sex is not actually a cure for loneliness despite the fact you think it will be . its a temporary distraction . being a good friend to someone will be more rewarding in the long run